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on being a PARAPROFESSIONAL

January 26, 2018 | 7 Comments Filed Under: libbyBLOGS

In our great state of Minnesota the governor declared this week “Paraprofessional Appreciation Week.”  I often get asked, especially by friends and family back home, “What is it exactly that you do?”  Since I’m home sick today, I have the time to finally answer that question, in as much detail as confidentiality allows me to.

According to Wikipedia a paraprofessional, also known as a paraeducator or teacher’s aide, is a “teaching-related position within a school generally responsible for specialized or concentrated assistance for students in elementary and secondary schools.”

So that should clear things up, right?

Let’s take a step back for a minute.  If you’re anything like me, you may have visited your little one’s school and wondered who these “extra” people are wandering the halls without 20 kids trailing them. Or who is this ‘Mrs. H” your child refers to all the time that isn’t listed on your school’s staff directory? I was the same way when my kids started school.  Also, I grew up in a time and place where we had a teacher AND an assistant teacher in our classroom at all times.  In my school days, special education students were not integrated/included in gen ed classes.  I had very little exposure to peers who learned differently than I did or who needed additional physical and/or educational support.  Most classrooms in America today however are inclusive, meaning there may be a wide range of learning ability in one setting, and they are led by just ONE (very tired, over worked and underpaid) teacher.

That’s where the paraeducator comes in.

Many paraprofessionals work one on one with a special ed student, following that student around to special services and activities from start to finish every school day. Some paras work in several different classrooms throughout the day supporting multiple students, sometimes at the same time, with various learning abilities. Often times these same people are the lucky little devils in charge of lunchroom, recess, hallway, and before and after school supervision.

So in case you think that since your child may not work directly with these mysterious people that you get a pass on this particular appreciation week, let me take you through some real life things that paras do, day in and day out, at schools across our nation.

You may recognize those pushing a wheel chair bound student to and from in the halls. But paras are also the ones that stand by the doors and greet your child with a smile on their face bright and early every morning before the bell rings.  We’re the ones re-directing kids on where to go depending on the time of day, even though it’s May and they’re not new and surely they should know by now.  We’re the one’s that have the pleasure of  enforcing the “no running in the halls” rule.

Some of help with feeding our student depending on the need. But we are also in the breakfast room wiping spilled syrup off of sticky fingers on French toast day.  And in the lunch room opening those adult-version-of-jack-in-the-box fruit cups that parents insist on sending with children every day without teaching them how to open them on their own.  We open countless Lunchables and Gogurt sleeves and milk cartons, ketchup, mayo and mustard packets. We poke flimsy straws through those metallic drink pouches, and we smell peanut butter on ourselves all. the. time.

Paras are those guardian angels outside on the playground that keep your kids safe.  Not only do we keep a watchful eye out for any suspicious activity on the other side of that chain link fence, we also keep Johnny from breaking an arm when he tries to earn his status as a circus performer by climbing on the outside of the top of the tall slide. Every day. And we stop Susie just short of sticking her tongue on the cold, metal, tether ball pole. Again.

We are in the classroom correcting backwards b’s and d’s, reviewing spelling lists, and sounding out words with with readers who are a little behind their peers. We learn new ways to do old math problems using boxes and tree branches and we aren’t even complaining about it.

We are the eyes and ears of every school. We notice when kids are being left out or bullied and we address the problem head on with equal parts empathy and authority. We teach children how to treat each other with kindness and respect. We answer with honesty the tough questions that little ones have about those that appear different than them. We are the on front lines of hearing every story your child can’t wait to share from what goes on at home. Those stories can be true, made up, heart breaking, embarrassing, and hilarious. We know more about you than you’d probably like us to.

Yes, we take care of the hygiene needs of those who cannot do it for themselves. But we are also the ones walking to the nurse’s office holding the trash can in front of the most recent victim of the stomach bug. Or pinching an all too-thin tissue to the bloody nose of the kid who had an unfortunate run in with a basketball in phy ed. We catch freshly fallen-out teeth until a tiny treasure chest is acquired to secure it until it finds its home under a pillow. We’ve had every single bodily fluid and gas thrust at us and we’ve been exposed to virtually every virus and bacteria known to humankind.

Our clothes are stained with “non-toxic” paint, there’s fruit snacks on the bottom of our shoes, and glitter in our hair. We take hugs with open arms from kids who likely haven’t showered in a week.

We calm the emotionally overwhelmed and wipe sad tears. We teach deep breathing and self regulating techniques. We dance to go-noodle during brain breaks and know every song by heart. We tie literally hundreds of shoes and stuff mittens in the cuffs of winter coats so little wrists don’t get cold. We know basic sign language. We help teach non verbal students how to communicate. We encourage. We help. We redirect. We know when to take a sensory break. We laugh and we tell silly jokes. And we celebrate every small victory like it’s a big one.

Right now as I write this next to a pile of tissues and herbal tea, there is a para at school juggling her schedule and mine because I’m home sick.

We do all of this and so much more every day because we love our job and we love your kiddos. All of them.

So the next time you see one of us in an orange vest with disheveled hair at school pick up, a simple thanks and a thumbs up will mean so much.

But please don’t hug us because we have been touched far too much today and we do not need you to add to the germ pool that is currently living on our body.

Thanks.

on STYLE + BEAUTY in my mid-30s

January 14, 2018 | 3 Comments Filed Under: libbyBLOGS

I went shopping for jeans today because I’m sucker for self-inflicted pain. That part is not actually true but shopping for jeans for my 5’1″, pear shaped body is, and has always been, a bit emotionally (and sometimes physically) painful. Ugh.

I’ve gained a little weight in the last year or so and my body is changing. I assume that just happens as a person ages. Or maybe I should cut back on the lattes. (That’s not going to happen.) Either way, my jeans no longer fit and I’ve been wearing out my welcome with the leggings. (Oh em gee, thank God for leggings!!)

So while the rest of the fam was pre-occupied with birthday parties and basketball, I spent two hours digging my way through the dressing room at Maurice’s. I must have tried on 20 pairs of jeans. (Sorry sales associates! 😬) I finally left with one pair in hand and another on order, both that fit nicely in the hips and weren’t too long or baggy in the legs.


I also bought a pair of cute booties to go with my new skinny (for a cupcake-loving mother of two) jeans. I’ve been putting this off since they came into style. Anything with a heel gives my bum knee hell. Once a year, Hubs and I go to a country music festival where I wear my cowgirl boots for four days. I have to take ibuprofen and ice my knee for two weeks. That’s the extent of my wearing shoes with a heel.


But I’m trying, you guys! I’ve really been trying with my overall appearance and beauty care since I turned 35 last year.

Typically, I’m a no make up, very little product (does deodorant count?), jeans (or leggings) and a T-shirt (or sweatshirt) kind of gal. I mean, I care about how I look, but I float somewhere in the middle of tired house wife and fashionable realtor. (I apologize if this generalization offends any realtors. You all just seem to look so put together all the time! How. do. you. do it??)

Last summer I attended a Rodan + Fields party a neighbor was hosting. I went with another neighbor friend and on the way we both swore we wouldn’t buy anything. We were just going to support our friend. Then we both left with a hefty investment in a full regimen plus a few other extras. I have since been very happy with my Soothe skin care line. Twice this winter I’ve forgotten to put it on in the morning and I end up with wind burn. I mean, I don’t look a day under 35 and 2/3 but it does seem to help protect my sensitive skin in the harsh elements here. Bonus, I’ve noticed a few less break outs too.

I have to admit though, I was kind of annoyed during the party when another sales lady kept talking about neck wrinkles and age lines and thin lashes. I kept thinking, “Really?! Can we puh-leease not put these beautiful women under the microscope and do the whole bod bashing thing?” I have never in my life looked at another woman and thought “Hmm, she should do something about those thin lashes.” And some of my most favorite people have heads full of gray hair and beautiful, deep lines around their eyes. Honestly, I can’t wait to be a part of that crowd.

Speaking of gray hair, I also colored my hair this fall. Not all of my hair, especially not those precious, sparkly grays at the top. Just parts of it. I haven’t done that in almost 15 years. My good friend and hair stylist was so excited about my “virgin” hair. I didn’t know there was such a thing but I was excited about having something about me considered virgin!

She did something to my hair that I still can’t pronounce but it starts with a B and it’s all over Pinterest. She hand painted different colors of amber and gold in sections of my hair and wrapped it up in foil.  Then she put me under this thing that rotated around me and made the crown of my head feel hot. When that was all set ad we got to the styling part, she curled my hair in a way that I cannot for the life of me figure out how to do.  When I do it, it’s like the wavy version of an inverse mullet: curly party in the front, straight business in the back.  Whatever she did I thought it was perfectly cute and subtle, but different enough to make me feel spunky.  Then I got home Hubs acted like I was a whole new person. I was like “It’s not THAT different.” And he said “It is for people who really know you!” And then he kissed me like I was 24 again. Gosh I love him.

The same friend that works her magic on my hair has also helped me out in the smoky eye department recently.  For Christmas she gave me some eye shadow and a whole set of make up brushes.  I’m so glad it came with an instructions booklet on how and where to use each brush.  Who knew there were so many different make up brushes?!  I’ve been using three pretty consistently now.  Go me! I’ve learned about something called bronzer.  It makes you look about 5% closer to what a Snapchat filter does to your face.  I’m not sure how humans procreated for millennia without it.

When all these elements are put into action I’m ready to go by about 2:00.  P.M.  So hopefully you can catch me on a weekend.  When there’s no kids sports activities to attend.  Which is about twice a year.

In summary, style and beauty in middle life is HARD!  There’s still so much pressure on women to look a certain way (ahem, YOUNGER!), it’s every evolving so it’s hard to keep up, and all the products and gadgets and new clothes can be EXPENSIVE!  I’m pretty comfortable in my skin most of the time as it is.  But here’s my advice on all of it.  1. Take care of your skin. It’s your largest organ after all. 2. Find a good hair stylist and listen to everything she tells you to do. 3. Buy bigger jeans.  4. Wear cute (comfortable) shoes once in a while.  5. Lastly, but most importantly, LOVE YO SELF!  All the time, no exceptions. You look great.  And so do your lashes.

No make up, curly inverse mullet, bigger jeans. <3

Hello 2018

January 4, 2018 | 2 Comments Filed Under: libbyBLOGS

Happy New Year, friends!

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged.  I hope you’ve been following along on Instagram and Facebook.  If not, let me catch you up super quick.

Hubs turned 40 this fall and to celebrate, I planned a surprise trip to Mexico for him with a couple of his friends.  We had so much fun relaxing and enjoying the sun, but the highlight was our excursion to the jungle, swimming in a cenote, climbing Coba Maya (full disclosure, Hubs is the only one who went all the way to the top), zip lining, and repelling.

 

When we returned home, we drove down to Rochester, MN for an appointment at the Mayo Clinic on his actual 40th birthday.  Hubs was diagnosed over a year ago with a scary but manageable heart condition.  He’s been on heart medication since, hoping several times to wean himself from it and the condition would correct itself.  It didn’t. This appointment ultimately led to the decision to schedule a cardiac ablation (look it up).  The 5 hour procedure took place at the Mayo the day after Christmas and while we are hopeful that it was successful, only time will tell.  That brings us into the new year!

The three pictures above are my favorite from our trip to Mexico and also a good metaphor to how the end of our year felt for me.  It was TERRIFYING!!  I cried at the top of this cliff AND before Hubs’ procedure.  At times I felt like we were hanging by a rope in mid-air.  But faith sustained me and we loved and lauhed our way through all of it. I was so proud of myself for overcoming my anxiety and going for it anyway at the top of that cliff.  And I was so proud of my husband for facing a pretty scary heart procedure in the hopes that it would improve his quality of life and cure his heart condition.

As this new year has begun, I have been reflecting on the events of the last four months.  What am I afraid of?  What can I let go of? What do I think I can’t do that I may find so rewarding if I just go for it?  Again, that question begs itself from my heart; “How will I best spend the time I have in this one, precious life I’ve been granted?”

Every time I looked at my calendar in 2017, I felt overwhelmed and anxious.  Between my job, after school kids, our own kids’ year round sports schedule, and running a baking business, there was precious little time left over.  I have known that something needed to give, but I was afraid of letting go and what it would mean.

I decided this year not to renew my bakery license at the commercial rental kitchen.  This isn’t a significant change, as I can still bake from home under the MN Cottage Food Law.  The weddings already booked for this year remain unaffected. But it may mean that I will turn down a few weddings/events if the venue requires the baker to be licensed.  My hope is that with small changes to our schedule, 2018 will be less overwhelming and I will have more time to pursue other interests, or maybe just do nothing much at all.  Who knows, maybe I’ll find another cliff to repel off of.

Just kidding.  One time was plenty for me.

There are other dreams and ventures I’m terrified of that I may decide to go for in 2018.  And there may be other things I have yet to face that I will need to let go.  I’m excited to see what this year holds for me and our family.

p.s. If you’re a friend or family that usually gets Christmas cards from us, please know that you were not nixed this year. Every time I went online to design one, I was again overwhelmed.  So I let that go.  We didn’t do cards this year.  Besides, I really wanted to use one of the above pictures of just the two of us, but thought I might be judged for not including a picture with the kids.  Maybe I should let go of that too…  😉

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